Updated: Nov 29, 2021
Asking your girlfriend to sign a prenup and can be nightmarish if done wrong. There’s a really funny GQ article on this:
“I’ve actually heard stories of sobbing, shaky-handed brides signing a batch of documents the sheepish grooms sprung on them moments before their march down the aisle. (Word to the wise: Those kinds of "forced" prenups are much less likely to hold up in a court of law anyway.)”
In this post, we’ll give guys advice on how to go about it. If you read our post on prenups/marriage agreements, you’ll see that these contracts set clear boundaries in your relationship and can protect against expenses and frustration down the line.
Nobody plans to have a divorce or wants to bum out the mood of their dinner date by bringing it up. But if you do sum up the courage, here are some tips.
First, be sure to bring it up as a two sided conversation. As opposed to saying “I want a prenup,” start with “let’s talk about it” then listen. Don’t interrupt, as people are much more likely to give you the time of day when they feel safe and listened to. Also, it’s okay to acknowledge the awkwardness of the topic.
Next, try to bring up the benefits she will receive from the contract. It can protect her money/property, and can improve the future of your children in case of divorce. It could be helpful to frame a prenup as being similar to life or home insurance. Getting life insurance doesn’t mean that you’re currently ill - why should getting a prenup mean that you’re currently planning to leave a relationship?
Finally, be sure to do it early. For a prenuptial/marriage agreement to hold up in court, both parties need to consent and be adequately informed. You can’t force it on your girlfriend in the 11th hour and expect it to be enforced.
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